NOT A BAD WEEKEND AFTER ALL
Well as it turns out I had a pretty good weekend. Even after all my fretting over the “cook out” I did have a good time. Just a few bumps to hurdle and swallow. It was pretty much a set up to get me to go over for theAidan to play with the boys. And my mother actually stayed for about an hour after dinner. I think the kids wore her out chasing her and spraying her with silly string around the yard lol. It would have been nice if my brother and the kids were able to be there too. But they were not called until about 5pm and my brother had just got home from work. I don’t blame him for not wanting to drive a half hour back down from where he just left. Of course the OS had to make her comment about the SIL not wanting to drive down by herself and meet him. Which didn’t make sense because she didn’t even call them until after he got home lol.
It was nice to be out in the nice weather helping Kate with an old fence and getting my hands a little dirty. I just wish I could have helped her more. But with two bored kids in tow one can only get so much done lol. I was also able to sneak back over on Sunday and enjoy a afternoon chatting with her on her deck soaking up the sunshine. Kind of like old times!
Angus and I had small conversations through out the weekend here and there when we could about how depressed I seem to him and our future living arrangements. In one conversation he is understanding and gets it. In another he is way on the other side of the playing field. He actually mentioned that maybe we should talk with my mother and see if she would want to buy a place together. Something with a in law, or double house of some sort. I just about choked. All I could do is laugh, shake my head and ask him if he was in the room during our last conversation. Now, I know that it would help her out, and us tremendously but, It would be no different than it is now. A wall between us would give me no more privacy than now. Actually it would be worse. The OS would be able to just stop on by any time she wanted claiming she was just stopping by to see our mother. It just wouldn’t work. My fear is that we might not have any other options. I told Angus that I just couldn’t go there right now, once we have enough money saved and we can start to think about moving we will cross that bridge. I just can’t think about it right now. I need to cross one hurdle at a time. It’s all I have in me at the moment. And the first one is to get a job.
I decided after one of the conversations that we had that I do think I am going to set my fear aside and go see the doctor. I think both theAidan and I could benefit from seeing a counselor. He was so happy to be here for the first month. But now he really wants to go home. He likes his teacher, but says school is boring, he isn’t learning anything new. He learned most of what they are on now in most subjects last year. And some of it they are teaching differently than he has learned. I tried telling him that that could be a good thing, that he will know how to do it two ways. LOL, he wasn’t buying.
I had a parent teacher meeting last week. He is not doing well with his spelling. Which is not new, we went through this before. They wanted to test him for Special Ed. I kind of chuckled and told them that, that this is not new. He is bored. I have been through this. I need to keep on him to study and not be lazy. If they check his papers close they will see that he is spelling a word correctly on one paragraph but not on the next, or visa versa. Which proved to be right in the few pages the teacher had in her hand. I asked how he is doing in his other subjects and she seems pretty pleased. Writing sentences and essay’s is just not something that holds his attention, he just does not get any enjoyment out of it what so ever. I also told her that I had told the principle on registration day about Aidan’s arrangements in his old school. Apparently he didn’t see the need to mention it to his teacher. You see he was getting low grades in class, but all his tests were high scores. GATE level scores. After a conference with him and his then teacher we decided that Aidan might benefit from working at his own pace, as long as he completed his work and it was done correctly he could move on and do something else school related. Within the end of the first week he was a week ahead of his class in all subjects and getting all A’s. Hum, special ed? I think not. She agreed that we will just have to keep on him and go from there. I hope it works. More on that subject later.
TTFN
Posted on 04/11/05 at 09:21 AM